It is also inappropriate to be naked in one another's presence.
Sex is a gift from God that is meant for a married couple to enjoy (Proverbs ; Song of Solomon; 1 Corinthians 7:1-4; Hebrews 13:4).
Ephesians 5:3 says, "But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints." The New International Version puts it this way, "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." Anything in a premarital relationship that hints of sexual immorality – like dry sex, foreplay, nudity, sleeping in the same bed, pornography, and the like – is unacceptable.
If proper boundaries are not established, increasing intimacy can have some undesirable results – such as feelings of abuse or betrayal following a break-up, loss of appropriate personal boundaries without a commensurate commitment, and beginning to become one before the couple actually belongs to one another.
With this in mind, let's explore some boundary guidelines.
We are told not to wrong each other in matters of intimacy.
Dating couples do not have the commitment that married couples do.
The partner with the stricter boundaries should set the norm for the couple.
All that being said, there are certain physical boundaries that are clearly biblical.
Intimacy includes emotional and spiritual connectedness as well as physical connection.
Dating couples grow more and more intimate as they become more serious about the relationship.
Our relationship with God is perhaps the most intimate thing we have.
When we invite others into this, we are inviting them into intimacy. First Thessalonians 4:3-7 says, "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you.
One way married couples strengthen their relationship is by praying together. But the manner in which they pray should preserve their personal boundaries. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness." (See also Colossians 3:5 and Galatians -24).